Here’s one that crossed my desk today. We have a couple marrying at our parish Saturday night. In keeping with our pastor’s edict against Saturday night weddings, a priest friend of the couple has been engaged by them to preside at the wedding. Unlike other couples who get married with us, there’s been no paperwork on their wedding, no meeting with either me or the wedding coordinator or any of our musicians, or any word on what they have planned for this wedding.
When I was called today, I was asked about what music can be played for the ceremony, stuff like “Here Comes the Bride.” I inquired about their musicians. I was told they have no musicians, only a DJ.
Keep in mind that while my pastor has come in a bit more strict in policy on wedding matters, he does tend to be lenient when pushed.
What would you do? Four days before the wedding, do you let it go and tell the DJ where to plug in? Read the bride the riot act? Suggest/insist they hire an organist? Offer to play for the wedding yourself? Tell the pastor?
I was speaking with a parishioner a bit later in the day and I asked about this couple’s priest. I was told Father N is a real “straight-arrow.”
I’ll let you know tomorrow how it turned out.