To Praise the Dead or To Pray for Them?

Let’s take a pause today in the OCF series. I’d like to call your attention to Andrew Hamilton’s opinion piece for Australia’s Jesuit periodical Eureka Street. A good essay on the contrasting approaches to modern funerals: do we come to honor the dead, or to entrust a sinner to God? Was the old approach the better one?

A generation or so ago, Catholic funerals emphasised very strongly the relationship of the dead with God and their salvation in heaven. People prayed that God would forgive their sins and receive them into everlasting life. … The virtues and the human foibles of the dead person may have been mentioned, but not emphasised.

People complain at times about an elaborate funeral celebration for a controversial figure, be it for a pro-choice Catholic (like Senator Ted Kennedy) or a criminal (like a priest child abuser). Does such a fuss imply critics and friends both have each conceded it is indeed a time to speak well of the deceased? To celebrate their life? Certainly, in the mainstream, mourners receive consolation from the positive memories of the one they’ve lost:

The celebrations focus more on remembering their life, thanking God for the quality of their lives, and consoling the living by recalling the dead person’s life. These are important and good things to do.

Eulogies seem have overtaken the rite of farewell and committal as central to the liturgy. And if we perceive funerals to be primarily for the praise of the person for his or her own sake, no wonder people object to funerals for some people. And here is a problem for bishops and clergy. Does the liturgical finery of a priest’s funeral (and let’s be honest: few other funerals draw more liturgical pomp) suggest more of the modern approach than a traditional one?

Hamilton’s suggestion, which seems sound to me:

Within the Christian community splendid ceremonies with processions of robed bishops and priests may heighten the sense that the dead person is precious in God’s eyes and may evoke God’s mercy. But those whom a dead priest has abused and the wider society are as likely to see in the celebration an enactment of power and defiance.

In such funerals it may be better to draw on the resources of Catholic liturgy that allow people to gather to seek forgiveness, express grief and pray for conversion. Plain dress, an unornamented church, honest prayers and periods of silence can express respect for the dead person and our shared need of God’s mercy. A one-style liturgy does not fit all circumstances.

No flowers, sure. But is there room for bishop and clergy to celebrate a funeral without vestments? Or absent themselves entirely from concelebration? I wonder how this approach would work out in practice. Suggestions?

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Todd lives in the Pacific Northwest, serving a Catholic parish as a lay minister.
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13 Responses to To Praise the Dead or To Pray for Them?

  1. Liam says:

    I don’t have a copy of the Ceremonial of Bishops, but the only ritual differences for a funeral of a priest that I am aware of are: (1) certain prayers are changed, (2) the body of the deceased is oriented toward the congregation, rather than the altar (the bodies of laity are oriented toward the altar; though in practice I seriously doubt this is something anyone thinks about), and (3) his insignia of office is placed on his casket.

    Otherwise, I see no reason why a severe simplicity could not obtain. The main celebrant would have to wear a chasuble, but it can be of the simplest type. If other priests attend to concelebrate – which is not required for the to so attend, of course – they can wear stole over albs.

  2. smf says:

    I don’t see why a funeral, combined with its other attached functions, can not serve all the various needs.

    I hope people do pray for me, and that this is a central part of my funeral (may that day be very long in coming). Let there be a wake or some such to celebrate my life.

    I can’t imagine a funeral being done without some degree of ceremony, vestments, etc.

    I guess the people we don’t like we can just throw their bodies in the river or local garbage dump, no need for any ceremony or prayers. Maybe we can even borrow from those early double predestination affirming groups who consigned those they felt damned to the fires of hell at burial. That could make for great TV, too.

  3. Dick Martin says:

    smf; Your last paragraph doesn’t make any more sense that the Church ruling on some ones life, examining to see if by their WORKS are worthy of Sainthood . We are saved by Grace which is received Faith in the promises of God. Grace and Mercy is received by our position in Jesus not by our observed works. The teachings of Paul tells us ;
    Ephesians 2:8-9
    For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God,
    not of works, lest anyone should boast. Works before we’re saved are called Dead Works because your Spirit is dead to God. After your saved the same works are called Good works. All because of you position ” in Christ”. This is very elementary teaching from the Bible ( Hebrews 6) which is different from your Catechism.

    • Todd says:

      smf could be referring to the feelings and opinions of some born again Christians: why bother praying for people, or mourning them, or even missing them? None of them–dead or mourners–will be saved anyway.

      No serious Catholic believes they can earn their way into heaven. But they do acknowledge that our love for God does indeed plant an impulse to share the Gospel and to be loving and charitable to others. We don’t do it to earn God’s regard. We do it because we have been forgiven and saved. Remember Luke 7:47: “So I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven; hence, she has shown great love.” The sinful woman did not serve Jesus because she needed to be saved. She already experienced the mercy of Christ, and therefore, she showed love to the Lord.

      Remember also the truth of Matthew 21:31: “Amen, I say to you, tax collectors and prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God before you.” Who are the tax collectors and prostitutes in the eyes of some born-again Christians? Other Christians who do not quote the Bible the way they do, or who worship differently.

      So let me ask you this, Dick: On the internet, where you don’t see or know people, how do you tell the difference between a saved person doing acts of charity, and a person trying to earn their way into heaven? You have Scripture aplenty to quote. But how do you really know you have the diagnosis right?

  4. Dick Martin says:

    How many times do I explain to you the Directions to enter Heaven. I recall it being said by one of you the they are Born Again by Water Baptism at age 3 mo.’s. what an intelligent Baby to be ableto comprehend the Salvation message. !st. you must be born again — you will know when it happens because the Spirit of God dwells in you. 2nd. you must believe in what Jesus accomplished in your place.3rd. you must agree with or confess with your mouth — witnessing to some one else. It doesn’t take long in conversation to find out where the loss stand.
    1 Corinthians 2:14-15 This is the Word of God; Unchangeable -Undefiled. Diagnosis correct.
    But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.
    But he who is spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is rightly judged by no one.

  5. Dick Martin says:

    Todd: ” On the internet where you don’t see or know people”. I beg your pardon– My fellowship is with x Catholics and others who need the truth shared with ; and other Churches full of x ( all denominations) When the Holy Spirit is involved this automatically Happens because He teaches the Truth and the way to eternal Life. All I remember about Catholic fellowship was making a b-line to the parking lot because of their T-Time. Or when we went on youth picnic and the priest dress in his picnic attire and a 6 pack in each hand. Preaching the gospel is sharing something positive ( like the scriptural way to eternal Life). Don’t you know that Jesus already paid for your ticket to heaven. Just accept the Free gift.. Belonging to a Church can’t get you in.I did this or I did that can’t get you in. Jesus did it for you ; without Him you won’t make it.
    1 Peter 1:3-5
    Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His abundant mercy has begotten us again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance incorruptible and undefiled and that does not fade away, reserved in heaven for you,
    who are kept by the power of God through faith for salvation ready to be revealed in the last time.

    • Todd says:

      I stand by my skepticism that the internet isn’t the best of places to really get to know people. It may well be the very worst.

      I observe you have repeatedly refused my invitation to dialogue via e-mail. You seem disinterested in really learning about your partners in conversation. Instead you repeat platitudes and clich├ęs as if nobody was actually talking to you. The example of Jesus, in contrast, was of interested conversation and personal accompaniment. Instead you show ignorance of Catholicism and a persistence in reducing the Word of God to a series of advertising slogans. It’s not working for you, my friend.

  6. Dick Martin says:

    I have shared the highest form of what Christians should use to prove the truth about Who God is and how He operates. You end up calling Scriptures , ” A series of advertising slogans”, Platitudes and cliche’s as if no one was talking to you. If you don’t listen to God speaking to you in conversation, why in any other secret closet so no one can hold you accountable to the Word of God. I can’t remember all the superlatives you’ve called the Scriptures with out going back a couple of years. I’ve printed all of your Catholic tradition comments. I my use some in a book i’m writing. It Will be working for me then. I suspect we have readers listening but not commenting even today. I consider this sight a serious place to talk about the things that matter. Not about astrology , science or any thing of this world; even satanic theology.Don’t fall for every thing you are told. Like Muslims being saved if they follow Allah. Not christian at all. many , many more.

    • Todd says:

      A few things here …

      – I have not called Scripture advertising slogans; I’ve said you’ve used them as such. It’s how advertising works: target an audience and spread the message hoping something, somewhere will stick and people will buy.

      – It might be that you will not use my comments elsewhere without my advance permission. That would be theft, which, the last time I checked was in opposition to God’s moral law.

      – “Don’t fall for everything you are told.” A good reminder for any of us when confronted with one-way conversations.

      • Dick Martin says:

        using comments without permission. you just did –Don’t fall for everything you are told. I can tell true stories and quotes — You do it a lot.

  7. Liam says:


    These threads have officially past their sell-by date. Your decision, but they are publicly unedifying. Not merely no edifying.

    • Jen says:

      Yeah…I really wonder what our resident trolls hope to accomplish. They aren’t converting anyone, especially when such posts pop up when vulnerable (that is, grieving) people are likely to encounter them. That pisses me off more than the content.

  8. charlesincenca says:

    Here’s a proof text for our two friends, “Remove the dust from your sandals and move on.” +1 to KLS.

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