15. In the celebration of the funeral rites laymen and laywomen may serve as readers, musicians, ushers, pallbearers, and, according to existing norms, as special ministers of the eucharist. Pastors and other priests should instill in these ministers an appreciation of how much the reverent exercise of their ministries contributes to the celebration of the funeral rites. Family members should be encouraged to take an active part in these ministries, but they should not be asked to assume any role that their grief or sense of loss may make too burdensome.
Good sense all around. Lay people contribute as ministers, guided in good formation by clergy. Family members invited to be involved in ministry–note the rite in no way considers “active participation” as equivalent to lay ministry–but with an important caveat: their consolation is a more important principle.