As we continue to work for family values that value all families and a protect-marriage movement that protects all marriages, we will have your example to add to Britney Spears’ 55-hour marriage, Larry King’s eight marriages and Newt Gingrich’s three (just to name a few) as proof positive that marriage needs protection, all right — but not from gay and lesbian couples who want to pledge to live together until death do them part.
Let’s talk values:
We will have another opportunity to talk about the values that make up a marriage; values that transcend the gender and sexual orientation of the couple; values like fidelity, monogamy, mutual affection and respect, careful, honest communication, and love …
I think it’s time to get our bishops off this DOMA meme. It’s another loser. It’s time to promote marital and family values in sacramental marriages, and support couples in difficult times. That some gay or lesbian couple down the road from me–or even nearby in a Sunday pew–might have a faithful, monogamous, respectful, honest, and loving relationship detracts from me and my wife in no way.
If the bishops can’t apply defense of marriage to abuses by heterosexuals who fall far short, then their defense means very little to me and to other Catholic couples who are trying to hold things together in a trashed economy, at times dealing with addiction, separation, too much work, too little leisure, and few enough resources for communication, healing, and reconciliation.
No bishop or priest is required to bless a homosexual couple. But please: don’t drag us straight couples into this silly fight. Instead, promote Marriage and Engaged Encounter, make sure your employees get time off for those retreats, and do more to retool your chanceries to promote adoption.
I’d rather think of your latest political effort as Defense of Prejudice Endeavor. The acronym fits.