Amoris Laetitia 100: A Kind Look

amoris laetitia memeJesuits get a rep for being intellectual, but the truth is that the Ignatian tradition is quite balanced, including this plea for a gentle gaze, a “kind look,” as the Holy Father puts it:

100. To be open to a genuine encounter with others, “a kind look” is essential. This is incompatible with a negative attitude that readily points out other people’s shortcomings while overlooking one’s own. A kind look helps us to see beyond our own limitations, to be patient and to cooperate with others, despite our differences.

Loving-kindness, that term “hesed” from the Old Testament; how God looks at us:

Loving kindness builds bonds, cultivates relationships, creates new networks of integration and knits a firm social fabric. In this way, it grows ever stronger, for without a sense of belonging we cannot sustain a commitment to others; we end up seeking our convenience alone and life in common becomes impossible. Antisocial persons think that others exist only for the satisfaction of their own needs. Consequently, there is no room for the gentleness of love and its expression. Those who love are capable of speaking words of comfort, strength, consolation, and encouragement. These were the words that Jesus himself spoke: “Take heart, my son!” (Mt 9:2); “Great is your faith!” (Mt 15:28); “Arise!” (Mk 5:41); “Go in peace” (Lk 7:50); “Be not afraid” (Mt 14:27). These are not words that demean, sadden, anger or show scorn. In our families, we must learn to imitate Jesus’ own gentleness in our way of speaking to one another.

Spouses speaking to one another: that is the first mastery we are called to emulate. If we don’t get it, heaven help our children. Remember that Amoris Laetitia is online here.

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Todd lives in the Pacific Northwest, serving a Catholic parish as a lay minister.
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