A priest with whom I once worked often commented on a significant flaw in our culture: the unwillingness or inability to commit. He wasn’t just talking about sex and marriage. Jobs, friendships, volunteer work, college majors. And he’s right. When the options are so many, it can be difficult to settle into one, then simmer with envy as others get a more choice portion of life.
In this section, Pope Francis speaks of marriage, and of finding the right time to make that commitment:
132. To opt for marriage in this way expresses a genuine and firm decision to join paths, come what may. Given its seriousness, this public commitment of love cannot be the fruit of a hasty decision, but neither can it be postponed indefinitely. Committing oneself exclusively and definitively to another person always involves a risk and a bold gamble. Unwillingness to make such a commitment is selfish, calculating and petty. It fails to recognize the rights of another person and to present him or her to society as someone worthy of unconditional love. If two persons are truly in love, they naturally show this to others. When love is expressed before others in the marriage contract, with all its public commitments, it clearly indicates and protects the “yes” which those persons speak freely and unreservedly to each other. This “yes” tells them that they can always trust one another, and that they will never be abandoned when difficulties arise or new attractions or selfish interests present themselves.
Remember that Amoris Laetitia is online here.