136. Dialogue is essential for experiencing, expressing and fostering love in marriage and family life. Yet it can only be the fruit of a long and demanding apprenticeship. Men and women, young people and adults, communicate differently. They speak different languages and they act in different ways. Our way of asking and responding to questions, the tone we use, our timing and any number of other factors condition how well we communicate. We need to develop certain attitudes that express love and encourage authentic dialogue.
Dialogue is a centerpiece of the Marriage Encounter movement and its retreats and couple practices. These are some of the questions that couples consider. The method is pretty simple: we write down our answers, then share with our spouse. Then listening comes from there.
Pope Francis is not just talking about ME dialogue, but a broad approach. And listening is still key. But communication is probably the first weak spot wives and husbands encounter in one another. After twenty years of marriage, I know it still trips me up.
Remember that Amoris Laetitia is online here.