160. Consequently, “it is not a matter of diminishing the value of matrimony in favour of continence”.(John Paul II, Catechesis (7 April 1982), 2) “There is no basis for playing one off against the other… If, following a certain theological tradition, one speaks of a ‘state of perfection’ (status perfectionis), this has to do not with continence in itself, but with the entirety of a life based on the evangelical counsels”.(Id., Catechesis (14 April 1982), 3) A married person can experience the highest degree of charity and thus “reach the perfection which flows from charity, through fidelity to the spirit of those counsels. Such perfection is possible and accessible to every man and woman”.(Ibid.)
Perhaps some of the perception of conflict is in our human nature wanting surety, and defending the choice we have made. Sometimes that commitment is accompanied by doubts. Often the most strident voices in favor of a stance are, on the inside, the most shaky in terms of their own self-confidence.
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