210. In any event, if one partner clearly recognizes the other’s weak points, he or she needs to have a realistic trust in the possibility of helping to develop the good points that counterbalance them, and in this way to foster their human growth. This entails a willingness to face eventual sacrifices, problems and situations of conflict; it demands a firm resolve to be ready for this. Couples need to be able to detect danger signals in their relationship and to find, before the wedding, effective ways of responding to them. Sadly, many couples marry without really knowing one another. They have enjoyed each other’s company and done things together, but without facing the challenge of revealing themselves and coming to know who the other person truly is.
One challenge in our culture is the encouragement of serial dating–much less the hook-up mentality. Even something seemingly innocuous as the advice to get to know a lot of people of the opposite sex can have an impact on attitudes when life begins to get serious for people in their mid-twenties.
For your reference Amoris Laetitia is online here.