In my experience, many couples are genuinely concerned about the preparation of their wedding liturgy. I approve of the Holy Father’s terminology here: not planning, but preparation. The notion is that we are not just amassing supplies and instructing people in their roles, but we are allowing a preparation mindset that opens us to the possibilities inherent in good ritual.
212. Short-term preparations for marriage tend to be concentrated on invitations, clothes, the party and any number of other details that tend to drain not only the budget but energy and joy as well. The spouses come to the wedding ceremony exhausted and harried, rather than focused and ready for the great step that they are about to take. The same kind of preoccupation with a big celebration also affects certain de facto unions; because of the expenses involved, the couple, instead of being concerned above all with their love and solemnizing it in the presence of others, never get married. Here let me say a word to fiancés. Have the courage to be different. Don’t let yourselves get swallowed up by a society of consumption and empty appearances. What is important is the love you share, strengthened and sanctified by grace. You are capable of opting for a more modest and simple celebration in which love takes precedence over everything else. Pastoral workers and the entire community can help make this priority the norm rather than the exception.
If parishes do not make good liturgy a norm, how would we expect couples to divert focus from being the same as anyone else?
For your reference Amoris Laetitia is online here.