237. It is becoming more and more common to think that, when one or both partners no longer feel fulfilled, or things have not turned out the way they wanted, sufficient reason exists to end the marriage. Were this the case, no marriage would last. At times, all it takes to decide that everything is over is a single instance of dissatisfaction, the absence of the other when he or she was most needed, wounded pride, or a vague fear. Inevitably, situations will arise involving human weakness and these can prove emotionally overwhelming. One spouse may not feel fully appreciated, or may be attracted to another person. Jealousy and tensions may emerge, or new interests that consume the other’s time and attention. Physical changes naturally occur in everyone. These, and so many other things, rather than threatening love, are so many occasions for reviving and renewing it.
I’ve observed that even couples who lack the communication skills and the courage to self-examine, there remains a strong desire for a permanent relationship. Just consider the number of co-dependents who stick with an addicted or abusive spouse, prepared to make excuses, to cover up, and to blame themselves for the fault of another. Rather than swallow whole the notion of impermanence, I’d rather approach each couple in crisis with a fresh set of eyes and ears. What do you think?
For your reference, remember that Amoris Laetitia is online here.