16. This holiness to which the Lord calls you will grow through small gestures. Here is an example: a woman goes shopping, she meets a neighbor and they begin to speak, and the gossip starts. But she says in her heart: “No, I will not speak badly of anyone”. This is a step forward in holiness. Later, at home, one of her children wants to talk to her about his hopes and dreams, and even though she is tired, she sits down and listens with patience and love. That is another sacrifice that brings holiness. Later she experiences some anxiety, but recalling the love of the Virgin Mary, she takes her rosary and prays with faith. Yet another path of holiness. Later still, she goes out onto the street, encounters a poor person and stops to say a kind word to him. One more step.
Practical examples one would likely hear from any Jesuit. The key for those of us who do not have these contacts is to look for opportunities to be holy in ordinary life. What is it that the believer notices around her or him? After attuning to one’s first, best impulse, than act upon it. Then it comes to a routine practice–it’s less a matter of absorbing information, advice, or catechisms in order to be holy, but to practice virtue as if it were an art.