Many people refer to God, often specifically Jesus, as friend. God can work through that “inequality,” as the Catechism describes it. The good news is that our friendship with God is not something we can manipulate, nor will God manipulate us to gain favor. On his part, it will be totally healthy.
54. The Catechism of the Catholic Church also reminds us that the gift of grace “surpasses the power of human intellect and will” [CCC 1998] and that “with regard to God, there is no strict right to any merit on the part of man. Between God and us there is an immeasurable inequality”. [CCC 2007] His friendship infinitely transcends us; we cannot buy it with our works, it can only be a gift born of his loving initiative. This invites us to live in joyful gratitude for this completely unmerited gift, since “after one has grace, the grace already possessed cannot come under merit”. [Thomas Aquinas, Summa Theologiae, I-II, q. 114, a. 5]
The Little Flower gives marvelous witness here; we do well to attend to it:
The saints avoided putting trust in their own works: “In the evening of this life, I shall appear before you empty-handed, for I do not ask you, Lord, to count my works. All our justices have stains in your sight”. [Thérèse of the Child Jesus, “Act of Offering to Merciful Love” (Prayers, 6)]