Between the readings and vows, we have the matter of the homily to discuss. There are four points to cover. Here is what the Church says about what the preacher is to preach:
56. After the reading of the Gospel, the Priest in the Homily uses the sacred text to expound
- the mystery of Christian Marriage,
- the dignity of conjugal love,
- the grace of the Sacrament,
- and the responsibilities of married people,
keeping in mind, however, the various circumstances of individuals.
It is a demanding expectation that all this get covered in five to ten minutes. More often, I’ve seen pastors try to teach at infant baptism, bishops attempt it at confirmation. And occasionally, clergy at a wedding. Be real about it. If a couple doesn’t get it by the wedding day, only a gifted speaker will get through. Considering the circumstances of individuals, if I were a presider at a wedding, I would pray and ask for the one thing the couple needed most off this list. And go with that in five or six minutes or less.
The text cited in blue is from the English translation of The Order of Celebrating Matrimony © 2013, International Commission on English in the Liturgy Corporation. All rights reserved.