Subtitle: What do Donald Trump and Miley Cyrus have in common?
I usually find celebrity news distasteful, be it politics, sports, or entertainment. But this piece struck me as it popped into my news stream today. And this quote from an anonymous “insider”:
(Miley) just got to the point where she didn’t want to hold back about who she is. She wants to be true to herself. Being with Liam, this was just not possible.
It seems a lot of people have a flawed idea of marriage and relationships. I recall a young friend who shared with me his desire to find a girlfriend/future wife who would fulfill him as a person. In his earnestness, I didn’t try to disabuse him of that notion. But silently I shook my head and clucked and thought, you have a lot to learn, dude.
I think a lot of people have honest aspirations to be true to themselves. But if we were created in the image of God, that’s more than just beauty, or two arms, two legs, etc.. God is also loving and self-giving. The state of marriage means that a person is dedicated to uplifting the life of the spouse. We place ourselves no higher than #2 in the world when we marry. The obvious benefit is that at least one person views us as #1.
That is the deepest human truth, and it applies to just about everyone.
Now, it may be that Miley and Liam each have their own false notions. That one partner or another tried to browbeat the other into submission in some way. Wouldn’t surprise me. That, of course, is wrong. The Christian notion of marriage is that the individual becomes the cheerleader, supporter, foundation, and rock for the other. That is a voluntary generosity. It can’t be billed. It can’t be squeezed out of an unwilling partner. It can’t be demanded. A person who thinks they can order a spouse to love, honor, and support them is deep in self-delusion.
It’s not unlike our president. We have an executive in the White House who clearly views himself as #1. Some millions are willing to grant that. The rest just label him with some kind of expletive, internet meme, or they have to take tums or meditate to get past him into their day.
The similarity is obvious. The president, like the once-teen star, just wants to be himself. This is good when you are a child and you are learning how to be social. From there, one learns how to love, how to make sacrifices, how to place others in the forefront. Once a person solves that puzzle, break-ups become less of a thing.