But on a more human level, it seems that Mary may have understood that it was the right time (the “kairos”) for her son, even before Jesus did.
Once, on pilgrimage in Cana, a mother who was there with her adult son said to me, “Mothers sometimes know their sons better than they themselves do.”
I was also thinking about that exchange between Abraham and God about the fate of that Old Testament city: how many righteous people need to live there before the whole community is spared total destruction?
Maybe the biblical authors themselves didn’t get the whole message. Perhaps these exchanges are meant to embolden us: don’t just accept what God gives, but lobby for more. I also have to note the Judeo-Christian principle of intercessory prayer here. Jesus’ mother isn’t concerned about her own imbibing, but for the families hosting a nuptial bash. Abraham is worried for strangers outside his own clan, not just Lot.
Let’s bargain with God. Our faith holds it as tradition. But I’d focus more on stepping out of line on behalf of others rather than for myself. You? Who knows the mind of God? But perhaps when we generate compassion for someone else’s predicament we are just expressing the most divine of all qualities. That may be a very important lesson in the firmament of belief.
Image credit: excerpt from Julius Schnorr von Carolsfeld’s painting of the Holy Family at Cana.