230. The message of peace is not about a negotiated settlement but rather the conviction that the unity brought by the Spirit can harmonize every diversity. It overcomes every conflict by creating a new and promising synthesis. Diversity is a beautiful thing when it can constantly enter into a process of reconciliation and seal a sort of cultural covenant resulting in a “reconciled diversity.” As the bishops of the Congo have put it: “Our ethnic diversity is our wealth… It is only in unity, through conversion of hearts and reconciliation, that we will be able to help our country to develop on all levels”.[Comite Permanent de la Conference Épiscopale Nationale du Congo, Message sur la situation sécuritaire dans le pays (5 December 2012), 11.]
What I think the pope is getting at holds true for relationships as well. Coupling people, or hiring people, we too often think about compatibility in the sense of minds thinking alike. It’s a lazy approach to relationships. Two co-workers, for example, (call it two colleagues or boss-employee) thinking differently are far more effective far more often for being able to approach problems and challenges from two different points of view. Problem is, too many people, especially bosses and some spouses get all threatened when somebody has a different approach. We could start thinking of different opinions as a form of wealth.